Every relationship has hurdles at some point during its course, and that’s fine. But if it reaches a snag, it’s the right time to take a stand for yourself. Get out of such a toxic relationship for the welfare of both individuals involved.
It is always a good idea for a couple to work out their differences through mutual understanding and discussion. But if you and your partner have progressed to a point where you are being harmed by the presence of the other. You should stand up and select what is best for you.
Before calling it quits, always double-check that your decision is sound. To do so, ask yourself the following questions:
- AM I BEING CONTROLLED BY MY PARTNER?
When two people enter a relationship, they agree to stay together as two partners should. However, it becomes toxic for the other partner to breathe; if any of the two has taken over your relationship with his/her domineering conduct. And this is certainly not what we call healthy.
- AM I BEING RESPECTED?
In any relationship, maintaining respect is essential. And if your partner does not treat you with the respect you deserve, it means they do not earn your existence. Being with someone shouldn’t make us feel wrong about ourselves or make us question ourselves all the time. Instead, a partner brings confidence in you and helps in boosting your self-esteem by proffering you respect.
- DO I NEED TO EXPLAIN ANYTHING TO EVERYTHING TO MY PARTNER?
Trust is what every relationship demands. And it will become toxic for any of you to explain everything to your partner if your relationship lacks that. Just imagine yourself explaining every what, how, where, when and why for anything you do?
Do you now think it is feasible to explain every bit of your actions to the other person? Certainly not.
It is toxic for any partner to constantly be in a position where one must prove themselves in front of the other.
- DO I FEEL I AM IN A CAGE?
If you feel like your relationship with your partner is more like a cage than a partnership, it’s not for you. A partner is someone who is there for you in every way, understands you, and allows you to make your own decisions. Small concessions are usually appreciated. But if you feel you’ll have to ask permission for everything you do, then perhaps you have no idea what a relationship is.
- IS HE/SHE ABUSIVE TO ME IN ANY WAY?
It is fundamental for every one of us to understand the thresholds, and once anyone crosses them, there must be no turning back from your decision to separate. If your heated disputes regularly devolve into verbal or physical abuse, understand that this is precisely what toxicity is and nothing more.
Before demonstrating your worth to someone, you must first acknowledge and support it yourself. If a relationship from which you expected nothing but good turns into a constant source of grief, move on and wait until you get what you deserve.
