Being in a relationship makes us feel alive, optimistic, and eager to embrace the following day. However, a relationship can only function if both individuals are equally invested; in nurturing and strengthening it. It can not be just one of the two putting up the effort. As they say, it takes two hands to clap, much as a relationship that only works when both partners are equally excited to keep it going.
If you think you are more invested in the relationship than your partner is and want to be sure, ask yourself a few questions, and you will be able to conclude.
- AM I THE ONLY ONE TO INITIATE SEX?
Getting physical with your partner must be a need from two, and if you feel you are the only one to get close to your partner, it is a red flag.
- AM I THE ONE WHO PUT EFFORTS TO COMMUNICATE THE DIFFERENCES ALWAYS?
Every couple does have differences in their opinion. But it is essential to communicate over it. So if you are the only one interested in sorting your differences, then it gives the signal that the other person is not much interested in this relationship.
- AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO MAKES TIME FOR MY PARTNER?
There is always a need for attention and time from your better half where you can share your worries, happy moments, and anything that happens in a day, and if you are the only one who is making time out of your busy schedule, then clearly you are more invested.
- IF I DON’T TO GO HIM/HER TO SAY SORRY, WILL THEY EVER COME BACK?
If you feel that following an argument if you stop talking to each other and you are not the one going behind them, they will probably not come back ever, is what tells you that only you want to keep this relationship going.
- AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO IS LOOKING AFTER HOME AND FINANCES?
To run home is a responsibility of two. And if you believe you are the only one responsible for your home and finances, the relationship is unquestionably yours.
- AM I THE ONE TO SURPRISE MY PARTNER ALWAYS?
The surprises do not have to be materialistic always. There is no need to present your partner with a diamond ring or a heavy bike to call it a surprise. It can simply be a flower, a voice note filled with love and an expressive letter, or a text message. If you are the one who is doing it all the time, then it shows you are not as worthy to your partner as he/she is to you. One partner putting in more effort than the other is nothing new. In a relationship, some of you might have the impression that you are more invested than your companion is. Finding the perfect balance and equality between the two, on the other hand, is an absurd expectation. However, there are situations when there is an evident contrast between the efforts of the two. And this is the only time when you should be concerned.
